Let’s be truthful.
Sometimes life just isn’t what we anticipated it to be.
The last five years of my life has been full of roller coaster emotions, life throwing its occasional mud ball in my face, but at the end of every day, no matter what happened that day, I am still sitting next to the same person.
If there is one thing I have learned in my five years of marriage, it is that we are in this TOGETHER. The TWO of us.
We HAVE to talk, ignoring each other when we’re mad gets us no where. And a conversation needs TWO people.
I am very lucky my husband is up for anything fun! Love him!
I am getting personal in this post today because I always believe, I can’t be the only one who needs this!
Here are Ten Things we have done -and continue to do- to keep marriage fun!
1. Say 3 nice things.
Real things. I wouldn’t let him say “you’re beautiful.” I want specifics. Long drawn out paragraphs of admiration are great! 😉
I confess and apologise I have no reference for this but I remember many years ago I saw a couple on TV who said they did this very thing. Every morning they started their day saying 3 nice things they liked about each other. Noted.
He takes his turn and I take mine. Who can resist nice things being said about them to them from the one person they love most!
2. Romantic gestures.
My husband surprised me one day with flowers! I really love this old tradition of giving flowers! Broke? Draw some! She’ll treasure it forever!
I appreciate the random love messages on the bathroom mirror. The lit candles at dinner. A letter posted to me- I love mail!
Just like when dating before marriage, these small acts score big.
3. Date night.
With young children we have spent many date nights at home but it is something we always look forward to.
To be honest, friction does not cancel date night. If you don’t feel like talking to each other you can still play cards! Or other games 🙂
My favourite nights are the ones where we do interviews or play 2 truths/1 lie. There is so much we still learn about each other!
I’ve heard some couples/families make a yearly playlist of their favourite songs from that year.
Or go to the same place each year and take a couple/family photograph.
Whatever it is, making and keeping traditions is special.
5. Writing journals.
It is very funny when we document vacations/date nights/road trips and compare how we both experienced it differently! Re-reading them together makes for a fun night reminiscing.
6. Smell good.
I really don’t have to elaborate on this do I?
I swoon when my husband wears cologne, especially the one he wore when we were dating. Ahhh!
7. Have pictures taken together.
I love looking at all the photos we have as a couple. Kissing ones. Laughing ones. Posed or candid. Photobooth! I personally think it’s important to have pictures as a couple. Memories, reminders and just a sweet keepsake.
8. A kiss before work.
I read an article where a study showed that men performed better at work when their wife kissed them before they left home! Sorry I don’t have the reference!
9. Celebrating those Hallmark holidays.
It is not my intention to offend anyone here! I have heard many sides and different opinions but at the end of the day, doing something makes everyone happy!
I came up with a brilliant idea for those who tend to forget: plan ahead, buy a shoe box full of different cards and small gifts, and each year you save a trip to the store, just write your message and give it to your love! hahaha
10. The notebook.
Have a small notebook, write a message in it, put it somewhere you know your spouse will see it and take turns writing messages to each other. It’s fun finding it in strange places and sweet when it is so unexpected!
If someone were to have shown me what life would be like before I married my groom, I know I would have just held him closer and said- let’s stick together no matter what!
A lovely quote I found somewhere:
"We are the perfect couple. We are just in imperfect situations."
Happy Valentine’s Day!
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